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My 2 beautiful children
by laura / Posted 29/09/2008 / Updated 27/02/2017
It has been 9 months now and life is becoming more of a chore each day.
To hear my children on the phone asking me when they are coming home and my daughter saying she speaks to the sky at night and tells it to tell her mummy that that she loves and misses her very much. It breaks my heart.
How can a Father and Grandmother/Mother be so heartless.
My heart goes out to you.
I also have a difficult situation of a similar nature.
My advise to you is cry,shout and be angry,tell your friends and anybody you know about the situation;mosy people will be sypathetic and this does help.
After the constant crying has ended,think hard on what you can do ,believe me there will be something BUT it may not be easy (as I well know).
Search the internet,for similar situations (reunite are very sympathetic and supportive but are limited).
Reunite may be able to suggest where you can go to obtain advise,BUT do it quickly as time may be a healer it does not help in these situations.
As to the childrens father and his mother,you must do as I have had to do and traet them as no longer being part of your family.I would suggest negotiation however your situation sounds like mine in that the ´other´ side have closed ranks.
I wish you well.
Thankyou for taking the time to read my story. I have tried talking their father and also offered him the mediation service but he just isnt interested. I dont think he realises the affect this is having on the children. It seems like they are doing it for their own selfish reasons.
I no longer regard them as family or friends i am just so shocked i never thought they would do this after all the support i gave to them in their times of need.
If you have any advise please do say i will try anything and its much appreciated.
Thankyou once again
I am pleased to help in any way I can even though it may be just a little moral support (I know how valued this can be ).
As I have found out to my own cost there is little you can do ,BUT there is always something you can TRY to do.
I constantly tell myself that if I do everything I can then I can do no more.
I´m sure that you have heard this before but you DO need legal advise ideally from a lawyer in the country where your children are.
Try to contact by email as I did with my own lawyer...........as the saying goes; where there´s a will there´s a way!
I´m so sorry you and your children are feeling this pain. Get advice from Reunite, and try to contact the Dubai ruling family. Be brave, and take care of yourself.
I like your advice that there is little you can do BUT there is always something you can TRY to do. I´m adding this to my own motto: Take it one day at a time,and if you can´t manage that, take it one hour at a time. Also, I once read that a panic attack can only last for 15 minutes. The really bad times, when you´re hyperventilating, are not quite so scary if you can remember that the attack, if not the situation, will soon pass.
Love to parents and children.
I just wanted to offer support and say my heart goes out to you - stay strong and talk to them as much as you can on the ph so you still have a bond when reunited - I was abducted by my father for 2yrs without any contact with my mother (it took that long to find us! - I was 5 and 7 when returned. (30 now)
Did any parent have legal custody of the children? I cant give much advice as I dont know the visa requirements for Dubai just support for you and your children. And acknowledge just how painful this is.
The law in dubai is very different to ours here in the uk as generally all the rights of children go to the father from the age of 7 for a boy and 9 for a girl. I understand that your children want to see their father but please do everything you can to avoid a similar situation of which im in. I really hope everything goes ok and if you have any questions please do not hestitate to ask and i will answer them as best i can.
Thankyou for your support. I hope you dont mind me asking but when you was reunited with your mother was the bond still there.
I am incresingly worried about my bond with my children. It is getting harder to speak to them on the phone as when we speak their father and grandmother seem to be distracting them.
I still 1 year 3 months on can not understand how anyone can do this.
Their father wanted me to sign a document so he could bring the children back to uk to see me but how can i sign that and then watch him take my children away again it would kill.
Alot of people ask me how i cope and the answer seems simple to them but to me it is the hardest thing ever. ´ I have to keep fighting for my children. Its not a case of how i cope because when i am on my own i dont but i have to cope. I have to fight and keep going for my children ´.
There was never any legal document in place to say me or their father had custody but the children always lived with me he never really made much of an effort with the kids and now he thinks he has the right to do this.
Be brave my dear. Please get all the help (support, medication etc.) you need urgently. I found the ability to vent this type of case helps a lot. It proves to me that I’m not alone. There are many people in the same cut off mum/family boat as myself. Yes, easier said than done. I too am in this insane boat. I too am a cut off mum. I don´t know where my 2 children are post 2004 short reunion (Hong Kong). He´ll turn 18 this Friday/ 6 March 2009(my depression levels gets worst during their birthdays & other special days). My international child abduction case began in August 1999. I agree, as for those cancerous evil people - it is best to cut them off from your life. No point in holding on to the past. It´ll only make your mind, body & soul heavier. Do the best you can do to get your children back (legally).At least be able to get physical or Skype access to them.Yes, like many other cut off parent unfortunately there is a time when you’ve to back off because you’ve used up all avenues to get them back. I hate this stage on my life. To be on this path drives me insane because I don’t know how long I’ve to wait till my children comes home to me/us ( Perth, Australia)on a permanent basis free of those evil people & environments. All I can do now is pray that they’ll forgive me for my sins. Plus refocus my energies to positive causes among valued family & friends. Take care. Good luck.Many thanks for sharing your story on this site.
What is this document and what does it state.....If you can tell us what it is exactly then we can perhaps help better- It is not as cut and dry as sign it and he will let u see them as I am sure you are aware- hence your uncertainty at what to do......Let us know because whatever you do will affect all future decisions/actions.
My heart goes out to you- I pray God gives you the strength to get through ´yet another day´
I completely understand your situation. I have 2 sons age now 10 & 8. I moved to Abu Dhabi with my husband 2 and half years ago as a family. He decided he did not want to be married anymore when we arrived there. He wanted to marry a woman who is young muslim from his office. We are British and not muslim family. He made my life hell and then converted to Islam. The house we had was a company home with his job. He threw me out and I had to live with friends. I was under his sponsorship. He made it difficult for me to see my boys. In the end, with help of friends, I abducted my sons back to UK. I had no money as he had everything. He hired top lawyers and my 2 beautiful boys were returned by the high court in London to the UAE. My husband then divorced me under Islam. I returned to UAE to be near my boys but lived on the beach and in a car for a month searching for a job on limited funds (this is illegal by the way). In the end I got job and I got a 2 bedroom place and was able to have some contact with my boys. But it was few and far between (300 hours in total in 1 year). I used up my funds and it was too expensive to stay there so I have left UAE. Now my exhusband (but we are still married under British law) has remarried a muslim woman. The Shariah court in Abu Dhabi gave me no rights as I am not Muslim, so my husband got everything and contact was not even given for the children even though the High Court in London awarded me contact and staying contact!!. This stood for nothing. Since I had to leave UAE as the housing is so expensive I have not heard from my children and my ex husband is refusing me to have contact. It breaks my heart. Reunite are unable to help and the British Embassy in UAE were unable to help and I have no funds for a lawyer and I am lost and miss my sons so much it kills me inside. I cry every day and worry about them. What can we do???? I abducted them when he converted to Islam as he was no longer the sane person I married and I felt he would push me out my boys lives and the nightmare has come true.
The document will state that i can allow him to take my children back to dubai.
The hardest thing is knowin what to do for the best i need to she my children but im dont think i can watch him take them away again. What do i do? I need to see them!
Its been over a year now and each day is becoming a chore without the support of friends and family i dont know how i would cope.
For me to have a court case heard in dubai its going to cost me £24,000 i havent got that sort of money. What do i do?
Your story is heartbreaking and i understand the situation your are in.
Please try not (although i know its hard) to give up hope.
Look forward to hearing from you.
I hope the posibilities of child ubduction and the legal documents you can draw before their father takes them for holidays will be more widely known to the mothers.
May be some more propeganda is needed??
The problem you have faced here is that not many people are aware of the law here. I think there is something that can be done at almost no cost at all. You will be surprised how the law should be favouring you. Is there a way you can contact me directly?